While reading the free sample of the book (thank you Kindle Whisper Sync) entitled, Daring Greatly, a book suggested to me from a member of my Lean In Circle, I came across something that made me go “hmmm….”
In her research, Brené Brown, the author of Daring Greatly (link to video) discovered 10 guideposts for living Wholeheartedly (a way of living by people who live vulnerable, resilient lives and who believe in their worthiness). Number 7 on her list is the idea of Cultivating Play and Rest: Letting Go of Exhaustion as a Status Symbol and Productivity as Self-Worth.
Whoa!! hmmmm…. what?!?
This idea is so magnificent and layered and actually came to me a few weeks ago while riding the train to a café that I was about to set up shop in for the day. I realized something in that moment on the train–that I was about to embark on a journey (ok, a day of tasks…) toward my dream that would not take me all day–and I felt anxious about that. Somewhere inside me, I felt like something was wrong; that I wasn’t doing enough/was failing since I wouldn’t have enough work to fill my day for the prescribed 8-10 hours of a “regular” work day.
Then I had to SNAP myself back into reality and remember that I asked and planned for this lifestyle–a lifestyle where I can work from anywhere I want, and have the flexibility to set my time, and actually get things done without all of the crazy (and ABSOLUTELY unnecessary) meetings, check-ins, calls, Skype chats, performance reviews, blah, blah, blah that fills the office 8-hour day. That being EXHAUSTED at the end of the day is exactly what I DIDN’T WANT. That I am making a strong effort to have time to actually LIVE; to explore, take time for myself, and have time for friends and family. That time to live life is my desire, and therefore should be my symbol of success, status, and productivity.
It’s an interesting battle to have with yourself once you realize that you have actually been holding exhaustion as a measure of success. I mean, why do we feel that being tired all of the time is some BADGE OF HONOR? No thank you!! I want to be lucid and energized for my life. I want to engage in activities and work that bring me energy, life and that edify and support me. Yes, Yes, Yes!!
What do you think about that?
Practical Resource Corner:
“Don’t compare your struggles to anyone else’s. Don’t get discouraged by the success of others. Make your own path and never give up.” ~ Farrah Gray via @ashanimfuko
“It is not the critic who counts: not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes up short again and again, because there is no effort without error or shortcoming, but who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, who spends himself for a worthy cause; who, at the best, knows, in the end, the triumph of high achievement, and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly…” ~Theodore Roosevelt
“What’s worth doing even if I fail?” ~Brené Brown