“My path of mastery begins when I want to give up. No more dabbling, even when, and especially when, it gets hard.”
-Mastin Kipp via The Daily Love Blog
-Mastin Kipp via The Daily Love Blog
We all need a little encouragement every now and then. Kid President, knowing this, has put together a video you can play each morning as you wake up or to share with your friend who needs a kick in the right direction. Take a moment and spread some encouragement. “It’s everybody’s duty to give the world a reason to dance.”
While reading the free sample of the book (thank you Kindle Whisper Sync) entitled, Daring Greatly, a book suggested to me from a member of my Lean In Circle, I came across something that made me go “hmmm….”
In her research, Brené Brown, the author of Daring Greatly (link to video) discovered 10 guideposts for living Wholeheartedly (a way of living by people who live vulnerable, resilient lives and who believe in their worthiness). Number 7 on her list is the idea of Cultivating Play and Rest: Letting Go of Exhaustion as a Status Symbol and Productivity as Self-Worth.
This idea is so magnificent and layered and actually came to me a few weeks ago while riding the train to a café that I was about to set up shop in for the day. I realized something in that moment on the train–that I was about to embark on a journey (ok, a day of tasks…) toward my dream that would not take me all day–and I felt anxious about that. Somewhere inside me, I felt like something was wrong; that I wasn’t doing enough/was failing since I wouldn’t have enough work to fill my day for the prescribed 8-10 hours of a “regular” work day.
Then I had to SNAP myself back into reality and remember that I asked and planned for this lifestyle–a lifestyle where I can work from anywhere I want, and have the flexibility to set my time, and actually get things done without all of the crazy (and ABSOLUTELY unnecessary) meetings, check-ins, calls, Skype chats, performance reviews, blah, blah, blah that fills the office 8-hour day. That being EXHAUSTED at the end of the day is exactly what I DIDN’T WANT. That I am making a strong effort to have time to actually LIVE; to explore, take time for myself, and have time for friends and family. That time to live life is my desire, and therefore should be my symbol of success, status, and productivity.
It’s an interesting battle to have with yourself once you realize that you have actually been holding exhaustion as a measure of success. I mean, why do we feel that being tired all of the time is some BADGE OF HONOR? No thank you!! I want to be lucid and energized for my life. I want to engage in activities and work that bring me energy, life and that edify and support me. Yes, Yes, Yes!!
What do you think about that?
“Don’t compare your struggles to anyone else’s. Don’t get discouraged by the success of others. Make your own path and never give up.” ~ Farrah Gray via @ashanimfuko
“It is not the critic who counts: not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes up short again and again, because there is no effort without error or shortcoming, but who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, who spends himself for a worthy cause; who, at the best, knows, in the end, the triumph of high achievement, and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly…” ~Theodore Roosevelt
“What’s worth doing even if I fail?” ~Brené Brown
“You either have to be the best, first or different.”
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Now that the barn is burnt down,
I can see the moon.
-Masahide, Japanese poet, 1657? – 1723
I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about what I want and how to get it. I recently realized that what is most important isn’t necessarily what I want, but that I have set a goal to achieve something and that I stay focused on achieving it. For instance, those goals I’ve been setting for myself everyday have become a source of satisfaction and disappointment. How can that be? Well, when I set a goal and move toward it, even if it’s something like “Go to the grocery store” I feel overall accomplished, motivated and amped to tackle something else. But when I don’t complete that task or goal, I feel overwhelmed and disappointed in myself that I didn’t get it done. When I scale that thought (as I blow up most things in my mind), I can see this as something that happens in life in general: it really doesn’t matter what you set out to do, it’s more about whether you embody the discipline and persistence to accomplish your goal.
This is where CLARITY enters.
In order to accomplish anything, you have to set a clear goal, clearly identify the task or walk the 5 blocks to the store. I mean, for real.
Author Brian Tracy says, “Clarity is everything. To perform at your very best and double your productivity, you must be absolutely clear about what you want to accomplish.” He goes on to say that a clear goal “must be believable and achievable, specific and measurable.”
So creating everyday tasks is the right idea, but I think we must also take this as an overall ideal for our life. What do I want to accomplish in the next 5, 10 , 15 years? What will I want to tell my grandkids that I did? Thinking like this helps me get clear about career, but also opens my heart and mind to other awesome goals like volunteering, traveling, and crossing some things off of my bucket list (i.e. driving across country–anybody up for a road trip?!?)
When I get clear about what I want to accomplish, I get less scared. I currently feel more assured about myself than I ever have before. This knowing what I want to do helps me be better at saying ‘no’ to things that don’t fall in line with my goal, it helps me budget my money and begin to plan for the future. I am settled in the fact that there are no explicit right or wrong choices (regarding life paths people!), but just chances to make clear choices that groove with our soul and our God-given talents.
Dance is my passion. Period. No more wiggling around. I’m here. This is what I am doing.
What can you shout out loud? What are you sure about? I’d actually really love to know. I WILL find you some sort of resource/connection that will be helpful to your journey. It’s just what I do.
Practical Resource Corner: I found this blog about making cold calls/emails helpful this week. I set out to connect with a NY dance agency to give feedback on my new site. Using Marcy Twete‘s method I got a response! Check out the blog here.
Love you! I really do-ooo!!
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